Divorce is a forced division of family,finances and your  home. You hear the stories every day of the emotional and financial strains it creates with our families and friends. In my recent divorce, my mantra was “anger will cost you money” .  Instead of being on the Defense, I opted for the proactive approach.  I could not deny the reality of my divorce, but I could change how I dealt with it.  I surrounded myself with a  support group to help guide me, rather than those who would host a pity party for me.  I replaced my former spouse with a team of professionals.  I interviewed and secured a mortgage lender, financial advisor and an attorney that were committed to my best interests without adding fuel to the fire.  Obtaining knowledge and being proactive allowed me to stand tall.  I was alone, but with my strong faith and the force of professionals providing their advice and opinions, led me  through the unknown to my new beginning.

I turned the dreaded doom and gloom outcome into a path to a new beginning  for myself.

I would strongly suggest to my friends and family to utilize the same tactic if  facing divorce .  Remember: you are not a failure because your marriage failed.  Find an empathetic realtor, a trustworthy financial advisor and a mortgage lender who are all well versed in the divorce process and interested in your success verses their financial gain from your divorce.

I did just that….and I survived 😉

Cheers to New Beginnings !

 

Debi Vandiver – REALTOR

Private Label Realty

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